WellnessWithHolli

We are talking about friendships! For the purposes of this series, we are looking at healthy friendships as a necessary component of any relationship such as a best friend, a family member, a co-worker, or a life-partner. In week one, we examined the first important quality to consider in developing and maintaining healthy friendships – EASY . In order to get the most out of our series, please return to week one and read how three essential characteristics are necessary in order for friendships to be EASY :  Authentic, Honest, and Trustworthy. Today, we are moving onto the second quality to consider in cultivating healthy friendships – Equal. Are my friendships EQUAL ? Equal?   That seems really strange, doesn’t it? Yes.   When we think of the word equal , definitions such as identical, alike, uniform, and the same come to mind.   However, in our discussion of friendships, the quality of being equal is defined quite differently.   Equality in a fr...

We have been exploring an all-to-common and painful topic- injury from betrayal. If you have not had a chance, please read our first three blogs in this series:  Help Is On The Way ,  What Is Behind The Mask?  , and  Feeling Confused, Worthless, and Powerless?  I want you to know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing. And just as importantly, by understanding what you are feeling and why, you begin the journey of recovering. Today, we are going to tackle a challenging topic - Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? Free Yourself From Four Painful Traps!  When we are betrayed,  it is our instinct to search outside ourselves for answers, for truth,  and for some measure of control over our lives. Sadly, doing so lengthens our stay in the pain-field.                                                       ...

October is a busy month. Along with  Breast Cancer  and   Anti-Bullying Awareness  , it is also a time when we turn our attention to  Domestic Violence Prevention . Over the past several months, Domestic Violence  has been in the spotlight as video evidence has surfaced of well-known individuals allegedly abusing their partners. Domestic Violence is a complex issue with numerous theories regarding causation as well as sound approaches that address intensive treatment for the perpetrators and recovering programs for the victims. I believe there is a missing piece - an underlying psychological component - which is not talked about. Get ready as we answer the question - What's Worth Got To Do With It?    Do You Feel Valuable? As we consider the role of victims, let's take a look at two correlations between Worth and Domestic Violence. First, many victims have a history of low self-worth .This lack of worth may come from dif...

On the last blog, I talked about the first three Stages of a Relationship : Stage One - Passion and Chemistry Stage Two - Power and Control Stage Three - Problem Solving and Compromise We are going to  move on the final two stages of a relationship, but before we do I just want to remind everyone that these stages typically occur in the order that I am giving them to you. However, because of transitions or crises or changes in your relationship, you will move back and forth into these stages and you may stay in some stages longer than you do others. This is to be expected.   Let's move on to Stage Four - Co-creativity and Mutuality.   Couples typically start to settle into this phase after they have been together for some time or at least after they have worked through Stage Two and are able to integrate Stage Three into their relationship with a level of ease.   It is my opinion that at the root of Stage Four is a key ingredient to healthy re...