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Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? Free Yourself From Four Painful Traps!

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We have been exploring an all-to-common and painful topic- injury from betrayal. If you have not had a chance, please read our first three blogs in this series: Help Is On The WayWhat Is Behind The Mask? , and Feeling Confused, Worthless, and Powerless? I want you to know that you are not alone in what you are experiencing. And just as importantly, by understanding what you are feeling and why, you begin the journey of recovering. Today, we are going to tackle a challenging topic - Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? Free Yourself From Four Painful Traps! 

When we are betrayed, it is our instinct to search outside ourselves for answers, for truth, and for some measure of control over our lives. Sadly, doing so lengthens our stay in the pain-field.

Let's identify four traps which keep us stuck and learn how to move out of them.
#1 Trap: Victims wait for the betrayer or for someone else to make them feel better, fix it, or make it right.
Many years ago, I was working with a couple - …

Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? And feeling "Confused, Worthless, and Powerless"?!

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We have been discussing betrayal. If you have not already done so, please read the previous two blogs to help you get acquainted with the Betrayal Bandit - Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? Hold on...Help is on the way.and Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? What is behind the mask? Today, we are going to tackle some really important information - Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? And feeling "Confused, Worthless, and Powerless"?  If you answered yes to any of these three feelings, read on.  You are not alone!  In fact, if you have been betrayed, you can expect to navigate through three debilitating and painful states:

The State of Confusion...The State of Worthlessness...The State of Powerlessness



Let's find out what is going on and why we are feeling this way! Let's get started.
#1 - State of Confusion 

When we are first betrayed, we enter into a State of Confusion.  Yes, we are in shock. And we are often in denial.  However, in this chaos of confusion, we are desp…