When we are first betrayed, we enter into a State of Confusion. Yes, we are in shock. And we are often in denial. However, in this chaos of confusion, we are desperately trying to find out why as we frantically search for answers, and we are trying to make sense out of something which does not make sense. We believe if we could only get an explanation as to how or why we were betrayed, we might feel better. We think if we could begin to understand how something or someone could betray us, we might be able to grapple with it. And so, we spend tremendous amount of our time, energy, and resources searching for something which most of us are never going to get.
Just as we start to find our way out of the fog of confusion, we enter in the State of Worthlessness. This is an incredibly complex and conflicted state. Because we have invested, trusted, or believed in someone or something and we have done so because that person or thing is important or valuable to us, it is impossible to comprehend two important truths: we do not hold that same level of importance or value to the betrayer, and/or someone or something else holds more importance or value than we do. These painful realizations cut us to our core.
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