In addition, when victims do disclose or report their abuse or assault, they risk being re-victimized and re-traumatized.
Whether the perpetrator is offending within a family, a college or university, a place of worship, a movie or TV production company, a branch of the military, or any institution/ organization where there is money, reputation, a brand, and/or an image at risk, that "system" will protect its own.
Let me say that again.
Whether the perpetrator is offending within a family, a college or university, a place of worship, a movie or TV production company, a branch of the military, or any institution/ organization where there is money, reputation, a brand and/or an image at risk, that "system" will protect its own.
We have witnessed this time and time again as we hear about cover-ups, pay-outs, and deals made "behind closed doors" as victims' silence is bought off. Other times, many victims courageously move through their legal course of action. As their character is scrutinized or past history is put on trial, they are re-victimized and re-traumatized in the process. To make matters more horrific, bystanders, loyal friends, or subordinates of the perpetrator often rally in support of the abuser safeguarding their own positions and protecting themselves against becoming objects of retaliation. As alliances form and solidify around the violator, victims are made out to be the "villains."
- Believe them.
- Stand with them.
- Offer to seek out help and resources with them.
- Whenever possible, intervene.
- Notify authorities you can trust.
- When you see or become aware of bullying, cyber bullying, harassment, hazing, or any kind of violence or degradation of another human being, do not remain silent. Silence is being complicit. Become a part of the solution.
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