Sunday, May 13, 2012

Mother's Day Can Be A Hard Day ~ And A Healing Day

Millions of individuals are celebrating Mother's Day with yummy BBQ's, exquisite brunches, specialty restaurant dining,lovely cards, thoughtful gifts,and bouquets of flowers.However, there are countless others who struggle to get through this difficult day.


  It is something we don't often talk about, we are afraid to admit,
and we suffer silently wishing the day would pass quickly. 
~ Quiet Suffering ~
There are no words that adequately describe the pain of a mother who abandons or rejects her children, who neglects or abuses or harms them in any way, or who violates their trust, love, and need for her. And it is extremely injurious for others whose mothers did not protect them from outside injustices or provide safety from familial betrayals. For those of you who are suffering today, I want you to know that you are not alone. I want you to know that you have every right to feel angry, sad, and bitter. I want you to know that you need to honor your pain,grieve it, and then...you need to let it go.  This may take some time and you may need to repeat the process again and again. But, do let it go.  Give it to your God, Higher Power, or Source  or embrace whatever releasing practice or ritual is comfortable for you. 


 But, do release the pain and release yourself from the hold it has on you. 


~ Release ~
As you let go of your wounds, it is critical that you put your focus back on you! If you have not done so already, start honoring yourself in the ways that you needed and still need! Take good care of yourself - physically, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. Work diligently at being the authentic person you want to be -  personally and professionally. And if the opportunity presents itself, be a quality mother, father, aunt, uncle, friend, coach etc. to a child. Other individuals choose to invite precious pets into their lives, raising and nurturing them and creating a beautiful bond with them. Break through any lingering bitterness and resentment by giving unconditional regard and love to a young person and/or a furry, feathery, or favorite creature of your own. You will be amazed how healing this can be.


Healing takes root by mothering yourself...
and blossoms by mothering others.

Lastly, break through your feelings of betrayal by focusing on those around you who love you, respect you, and treat you in the ways that you deserve and need. When the hurtful memories resurface from childhood, replace them by building nourishing memories with those who are present and available for you now. Focus on the new and claim it.


Avoid letting the past define you...
Allow the present to refine you.

When Mother's Day rolls around  this year and in the years to come, plan ahead and prepare. Set aside some time for yourself.  Buy yourself a card, treat yourself to a special day, and celebrate the person that you are and what you have become.


 Most of all, be gentle with yourself... 
The day will pass and you will be stronger because of it. 



~ Feel the gentle strength within you grow ~

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~ If you are struggling to "break through" past injuries and injustices from your mom or other
   individuals, I invite you to get your copy of "Breaking Through Betrayal 2nd Edition".



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