|Mask of Disguise - The False Self|
As soon as we are triggered by someone or something, the Mask of Denial typically is the first mask to present itself. And immediately following, the Mask of Disguise shows up. However, they may appear almost simultaneously. Think about this example. (The names and people I am referencing are fictitious,)
Marcus has been clean and sober for over two years. Recently, he ran into an old drinking buddy who asked Marcus to 'come and hang out sometime'. Feeling lonely and missing his friends, Marcus begins to entertain the messages of self-inflicted lies as he puts on the Mask of Denial. As Marcus begins to make plans to visit his old friends, he then adorns the Mask of Disguise - and the pretending begins. At this point, Marcus begins to slip further into relapse, contacting his drinking buddies and setting up a time to meet. Wearing the Mask of Disguise, Marcus must now start lying to himself that what he is doing is ok, and he must start fabricating stories to cover his tracks. All of this takes incredibly energy; all of this moves Marcus away from his healing truths and into a false self.
The Mask of Disguise is The Mask of the False Self.
|Wearing The Mask of Disguise is depleting and draining.|
How do we move forward; how do begin to reclaim our true selves again? Depending on the kind and/or the severity of relapse, obviously the interventions will vary accordingly. Sadly but most often, it isn't until the resources and energy to keep the false self alive have run out or the false self is left in ruins, that an individual is ready to re-embrace recovery. Remember, recovery from relapse is always present; it is always possible. It is always waiting for us. It is my hope and intention with this blog that we recognize The Mask of Disguise for what it is, understand its role in relapse, and just as with The Mask of Denial, arrest it in its tracks before we are in a full episode of relapse. We must begin by taking a brutally honest inventory of what happens to each of us when we wear this mask. Start by answering these questions:
- How do you present the "false self"? Who are you? What do you become?
- How do you act when you are pretending that your life is fine?
- What lies do you tell yourself and others?
- What unhealthy behaviors do you return to or acquire in order to hide your decline into relapse?
By identifying the features of our false self, by admitting their role in our relapse, and by owning their impact upon us, we equip ourselves for an ealier recognition of The Mask of Disguise the next time it presents itself, and we are armed for its immediately removal!
- Recognize the features or behaviors of the false self! Name them!
- Reject them! Call them out!
- Replace them with features or behaviors of the true self! Be honest, real, and authentic!
- Reclaim that true self. Act upon your healthy choices.
- Repeat the process, as many times as necessary!
Reclaim and Fortify Your True Self!
|At ease with the Tue Self|
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