|Are you a Worry Bee?|
I'm convinced that we are either born worriers or we are not! I'm a Worry Bee and my husband is a Cool Cat! When it comes to worrying, he cannot relate to my busy mind and I cannot relate to easy going attitude! An example of a conversation between us might go something like this:
Me: Honey, the car is making a weird noise. Don't you think we should take it in and have it
|Are You A Cool Cat?|
Dan: Hmmm, maybe. Let's give it a few days. I'll listen to it. We'll see.
Me: Yes, but what if something happens when I'm driving it? That worries me.
Dan: Ok, I'll check it out. If something doesn't sound right, we'll take it into the shop?
Me: But when? If we don't take care of right away, we could make it worse?
Dan: Holli, don't worry. I'll go check it out in a few minutes. And then we'll go from there.
Me: (still worrying) Okay.
If you are a worrier, can you relate to this? For Dan to tell me not to worry is like me telling him not to get hungry! It just happens naturally. Unfortunately, worrying accomplishes nothing! It does not serve any purpose or produce a positive outcome! Worrying is a real Zapper! Let's take a closer look at it.
about the unknown or what might happen ~
Okay so let's get down to business and examine 3 Tips for Staying Recharged! These three cognitive exercises work! But, you have be patient and diligent as you implement them until they become as natural to you as your worrying!
|Stop and Replace the Worry!|
As you go about your day and start to worry - Stop The Thought! Visualize yourself actually identifying the worry, stopping it, scooping it up, and tossing it out of your mind! Then, immediately Replace It with a positive thought! Remember, we cannot think too opposing thoughts at the same time! Some examples are: This is going to work out! There is no reason to worry - I've know she will be safe. I can't control them; I can only control my own thoughts! I'm letting it go! If the worry comes back, repeat the exercise! Keep practicing. It will get easier.
|Play Out The Worry!|
This exercise may sound a little strange, but it works! Whatever you are worrying about, play out the worry until you cannot go any further with it. It actually starts to sound ridiculous! Let me give you a simple example.
Me: Honey, when our guests come over for dinner, I'd like to eat outside, but I'm worried it might rain.
Dan: Well, let's plan for that. What's the worst that could happen?
Me: It starts raining and we have to bring everything in. And the dinner might get ruined.
Dan: That's true. But what is the worst thing that could happen?
Me: Well, I guess if the dinner was a mess we could order pizza. But, what if our guests don't want pizza?
Dan: Then, we can all go out to eat! What is worse than that?!
Me: I give up! (and start laughing)
Although I realize this might not work for more serious issues, so much of worrying is about insignificant stuff and this works well. Try it! And by the way, you don't need another person to do this exercise, just play it out in your mind.
In closing, many years ago I came across a Swedish Proverb that has stuck with me. It helped me in letting go of my worrying. I hope it will help you too!
Don't let your worry overshadow you any longer!
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