In our previous blog Energy Zapper #5: Shame! Taking Shame Out Of Its Shadows! ,we discussed the unique anatomy of shame and its three sources of causation – betrayal by someone, betrayal of someone, and betrayal of self. To get the most out of today’s blog, please go back and take a read. And then get ready to move on to part two: Shame! 3 Healing Rays for Re-Emergence!
As we move out of the shadows of shame, let’s remind ourselves of what shame is through this acronym.
- S = Self
- H = Hatred
- A = And
- M = Malignant
- E= Embarrassment
What do I mean by shared healing? I mean that we must take shame out of its shadows and bring it out into the light. We must share our shame with trusted individuals and allow healing to fill its place. However, it does not mean that we must announce it to the world. It means that we honor and respect our voices by thoughtfully sharing our shame with those who can safely hold it and validate it. And then after releasing our self-hatred and malignant embarrassment, we move onto mindful existence. This means we begin living our lives with purpose and direction - mindful of what is healthy for us and honoring our truths in the process.
Although the journey of re-emergence is unique to the three types of betrayal and their ensuing manifestations, I want to give you three recovering principles (rays of healing) that I believe are paramount in re-emerging from the shroud of silence, secrecy, and stigma that envelope shame.
- Healing Ray One – Sharing Your Truth
|Ray of Sharing|
1. Journal your truths each day. Read over them, again and again.
2. Write down your narratives. And then, read over them, giving yourself time to process and to affirm what is true for you.
3. Surround yourselves with healthy routines and environments that support and validate you and
their words of encouragement and affirmation.
- Healing Ray Three - Living Out Your Truths
|Ray of Living|
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