Did you do your homework? Did you spend some time reflecting or writing about your new truth? Don't feel badly if you didn't! And, most importantly, don't add more shame onto yourself!! Start right now!! Here is where we begin... The shame that I am feeling right now is going to provide me with the exact nutrients that I need to grow again. How is that possible? Just stay with me... and let's begin our work. Let's start peeling away the shame and see what we find! For me, shame feels like layers and layers of blankets that are smothering me . I can't get out from underneath them, and, I don't have the strength to throw them all off, to toss them away. So, I do it a little at a time. I name it and begin removing it. One of my layers of shame is self-blame. That is huge for me. I hate disappointing other people, but I hate disappointing myself!! When I relapsed several years ago, I still remember the shroud of self-blame that was wrappe...
