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I'm Holli Kenley. I work in the field of psychology as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I am the author of four books on BETRAYAL, and I consider myself a thought-leader on BETRAYAL Trauma and how to recover from it.  My TED Talk  BETRAYAL: The Loss No One Is Talking About  was recently released. When we think of BETRAYAL, for most of us our minds go to issues of infidelity. Sadly, it has been my experience that one of the most common forms of BETRAYAL is not infidelity --  it is Parental Betrayal.  Currently in my private practice, all my adult clients have been victims of Parental Betrayal - p rimary caregivers (parents or guardians) who were encharged with loving and protecting their children and who failed to do so. In fact, for most of my clients their caregivers are the perpetrators -- individuals who   inflicted harm and abuse upon them. Or, caregivers were aware of their children being abused by a family member or relative (or other individuals),  and they did not

Recently I gave a TED Talk - BETRAYAL: The Loss No One Is Talking About . At the beginning of  the talk I asked the audience two questions: "If you have ever felt betrayed, have you been told to give it time, to trust again, or to forgive? And if you tried any of those things, have you felt better....or bitter?" With over ten thousand hours in session as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist working with clients healing from betrayal, I've heard from hundreds of individuals who have wondered why they still are stuck in the pain of their betrayal injury, even after they have forgiven their betrayer/s.  Based on years of researching and analyzing betrayal and on my professional experience, I believe Forgiveness Does Not Heal Betrayal. Here's Why. Healing From Betrayal - Concept #1 Practicing forgiveness may release the hold the betrayer has on you. But it does not heal the betrayal wound. I want to acknowledge that practicing forgiveness holds deep meaning in

Have you ever felt betrayed?  If so, have you been told to give it time, to trust again, or to forgive and move on? And, if you tried any of those things, have you felt better or bitter? IF you have felt stuck in the pain of betrayal, I want you to know that there is a reason. Take a listen and find out what that is.  If you are ready to heal from your betrayal, I invite you to RIGHT YOURSELF with.. BREAKING THROUGH BETRAYAL: And Recovering The Peace Within Amazon Top 100 Books In Recovery (ACOA) For more healing resources, visit  Holli Kenley Follow us  Twitter ,  Instagram ,   Facebook

"Something was missing. I felt off."  A few months ago, I had the opportunity to present a virtual parenting class in the state of Michigan. Nothing really new to me.  Except this time, I was excited to reach a broader audience -- nineteen library communities would be connecting through one centralized district office.   At 2:00 pm Pacific Standard Time, I closed my blinds in my bright office and carefully arranged my desk, white light, microphone, camera, materials, and double-checked my power-point slides.   Yep.   Everything was ready.   At 2:40 pm, tech guru Phillip welcomed me into StreamYard, the platform we would be utilizing. We chatted for a few minutes. Then, as instructed, I uploaded my power-point. I struggled for moment as this format was new to me. With Phillip’s help, we got everything working.  We began promptly at 3:00 pm. For the next 90 minutes, I stared at my screen delivering the workshop.   I could not see any participants, I could not see Phillip,