WellnessWithHolli

I always liked to write. But, I never considered myself a writer. I was a musician - first a pianist and then a flutist. From fifth grade on, my flute became my companion. I worked hard in my academics, but my flute was my future. I was going to play professionally, someday. As I entered college, I was eager to advance my musical talents and feeling quite confident about my academic abilities. However, because I had scored quite low on my SAT's, I was required to take Bonehead English. I was actually quite embarrassed by this labeling of intellectual deficiency and a little confused. After all, I had really good English grades in high school. I struggled through the class along with other students. The professor seemed to derive pleasure out of highlighting our inadequacies and shaming us further for falling below the University of California standards. I passed the class, but learned very little, if anything. I finished the next four years of college feeling quite academicall...

We are discussing Betrayal. In week one, we covered  Feeling Stuck From Betrayal Injury? ; in week two, we dug into the meat of  betrayal discussing  Why Is Betrayal Injury So Painful?  ; and in week three we uncovered three important principles in our discussion of  How Long Will I Hurt From Betrayal?   If you have not already done so, please read those posts and then join us here as we discuss Why Do I Have To Make It Right?  The Betrayal Whisperer is here to help! If today's topic is sounding familiar, it is because we briefly discussed it in week one - Trap #1: Waiting for someone or something else to  make it right. Let's review why this thinking is a trap. This is the biggest trap that victims of betrayal fall into and it is a completely natural feeling to have. Although this is not the case for everyone, most individuals wait for the  betrayer  to come to his/her senses, to apologize, or to make amends or rest...

We are discussing Betrayal. In week one, we covered  Feeling Stuck From Betrayal Injury?  and in week two, we dug into the meat of  betrayal discussing  Why Is Betrayal Injury So Painful?   If you have not already done so, please read those posts and then join us here as we discover  How Long With I Hurt From Betrayal? The Betrayal Whisperer is here to help! Before we dissect the anatomy of betrayal to understand how some individuals are able to recover from betrayal injury in a relatively shorter period of time while others carry their wounds with them for months and even years, it's important to remember two factors: First, as we discussed in week one, many folks get stuck in the traps of  betrayal extending their stay in the pain-field.  Secondly, each individual's betrayal injury in conjunction with surrounding circumstances and  his/her unique personality; ego strength; underlying disorders, illnesses, or vulnerabilities; and acces...