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A Silent Pandemic: A Longing for Authentic Attachment

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"Something was missing. I felt off."  A few months ago, I had the opportunity to present a virtual parenting class in the state of Michigan. Nothing really new to me.  Except this time, I was excited to reach a broader audience -- nineteen library communities would be connecting through one centralized district office.   At 2:00 pm Pacific Standard Time, I closed my blinds in my bright office and carefully arranged my desk, white light, microphone, camera, materials, and double-checked my power-point slides.   Yep.   Everything was ready.   At 2:40 pm, tech guru Phillip welcomed me into StreamYard, the platform we would be utilizing. We chatted for a few minutes. Then, as instructed, I uploaded my power-point. I struggled for moment as this format was new to me. With Phillip’s help, we got everything working.  We began promptly at 3:00 pm. For the next 90 minutes, I stared at my screen delivering the workshop.   I could not see any participa...

Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? And feeling "Confused, Worthless, and Powerless"?!

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We have been discussing betrayal. If you have not already done so, please read the previous two blogs to help you get acquainted with the Betrayal Bandit -  Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? Hold on...Help is on the way. and  Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? What is behind the mask?  Today, we are going to tackle some really important information - Blindsided by the Betrayal Bandit? And feeling "Confused, Worthless, and Powerless"?  If you answered yes to any of these three feelings, read on.  You are not alone!  In fact, if you have been betrayed, you can expect to navigate through three debilitating and painful states: The State of Confusion... The State of Worthlessness... The State of Powerlessness Let's find out what is going on and why we are feeling this way! Let's get started. #1 - State of Confusion  When we are first betrayed, we enter into a State of Confusion.  Yes, we are in shock. And we are often in denial. ...

A Feast of Face to Face Connections - No Technology at the Tables

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What I am about to share is based solely on anecdotal experience and observation.  Nothing more. My husband Dan and I recently returned from a vacation to parts of Western Europe and the Mediterranean. Thrilled to have an opportunity to share places I had visited as a college student and then as an adult, I couldn't wait to explore the wonders of other cultures with the love of my life! And, he was just as excited to experience it for the first time. Arriving first in Paris, we set out to visit as many of the tourist attractions as we could fit in during our stay there. In spite of the untimely heat wave, we did just that.  But because Dan and I are "foodies", we reserved our meal times for sleuthing out specialty restaurants and boutique cafe's nestled between quaint shops and greeted by cobblestone streets.  One afternoon, we stumbled across La Saotico - a gem of a restaurant. After being warmly welcomed by the owner, we made ourselves comfortable while s...

Tech-Proof Your Relationship! Take the Valentine's Day Quiz!!

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Valentine's Day is almost here!  Are you ready?  More importantly, do you feel that your relationship is stronger now that we are constantly 'connected' through technology? Many couples that I have talked with, especially females, are experiencing a loss of connection with their partners even though they are interacting electronically throughout the day! Why might this be?  We'll take a look at why in just a moment, but for now,  I'd like you to Tech-Proof Your Relationship by taking a little quiz! Answer Yes or No. Remember, Yes means true most of the time . Be honest and don't over-think your responses! Also, when answering the questions on your technology habits and usage, we are talking about time spent on  any electronic device.  Also, any work time spent on technology is not included. However, this should not exceed 8 hours per day, 5 days a week. Not weekends!  OK, here we go! 1.  I spend more face to face time with tech...