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    Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back...One Breath at a Time An Honest Conversation About Relapse!  You Are Not Alone!! Guest - Holli Kenley 04/29 by Victor Schueller | Blog Talk Radio

Today...let's just zero in on the topic of shame .   Let's get it out in the open!  Let's talk about what it does to us. It keeps us stuck. We don't feel there is any way out.  We give up before we have even started.   It keeps us shut down.  We keep playing those 'negative tapes' in our heads convincing ourselves that we are nothing, losers, no good. It robs us of all the good parts of ourselves.  We 'become' the shame.  We forget that we are more than 'it'.  It suffocates us!  We can't even begin to take in any kind of healthy flow because we continue to breathe in toxic air!   So what is actually going on with us?  What is shame all about?  Think about this: S   -    Self H   -    Hatred A   -    And M   -   Malignant E    -   Embarrassment Yes, we made bad choices. We betrayed ourselves by choosing the wrong people, places, and...

Over the next several weeks, I want to talk to you about Relapse....  I know... its a subject that we don't like to discuss.  It's a word that has all kinds of negative connotations associated with it - failure...disappointment...guilt...self-blame...worthlessness...looser.. .and the worst one of all - shame.   And this is exactly why we need to discuss it!  All those feelings and emotions are real.  And yes, we are responsible for our choices that  led us to relapse.  At the same time, in order for us to get out from underneath that mountain of shame that we have piled on ourselves, we need to talk about it! And, we need to get to work to dig ourselves out! Why am I choosing the subject of Relapse?  To be honest with you, my newest book that was just released in on this very subject - Mountain Air: Relapsing and Finding the Way Back...One Breath at a Time.   This book details my story - my descent into a painful place and my regress...

We live in a time when 'the good news is' - everyone has a voice!  We live in a time when 'the bad news is' - everyone has a voice! It is incredibly freeing and exciting to be able to state our thoughts, feelings, and emotions to a vast audience with just the click of a tab or key.  At the same time, whenever we do so, we not only open ourselves up for constructive comment or criticism or perhaps even affirmation, but often we  put ourselves at risk for judgment, evaluation, and incredible injury. How then, do we respect our voices especially in the digital age? Many times our voice is disrespected because we are not as selective and discerning as we need to be in our disclosures. First, we must value the content of what we have to say . And, we must respect the way we deliver our words and to whom we deliver them.  Yes, we need to take ownership of our words and demonstrate that we value our voice.  In order to practice this, start implementing a str...

Women and Girls... If someone asks you how you define your worth, what would you say?  And if asked how you determine your worth - in other words - do you chose it or do you allow it to happen randomly, what would you say? Take a minute and answer the first question.  How do you define your worth?  Be very honest with yourself. If you are not sure, do this simple exercise.  Draw a circle - let's call this your "worth circle" . Inside the circle, divide it up into pieces that represent the people, places, things, jobs/careers, hobbies, any friendships or relationships, etc. that you invest into.  When we talk about investing, we mean your time, energy, and any resources that you put into someone or something.  When you are done, stop and look over the different percentages.   Although there will be exceptions, most likely the people, places, and things that you invest into more strongly will be the components that give you worth. For exam...

Once again, as has happened numerous times over the past several months and years, another high profile and popular personality has betrayed his family, his friends, his most loyal supporters, and his national fans as well as an international audience .  Because Lance Armstrong is a world-wide phenomenon, the spotlight is beaming down on his soaring crash from grace.  Most of us want to hear from him and find out what he will do.  Will he –as the betrayer – apologize?  Ask for forgiveness?  Will he seek help? Get counseling? Change his ways of thinking…or his behaviors?  While the focus tends to shine more deliberately on the betrayer, there are individuals who are deeply hurting because of his actions.  Those who believed, trusted, and invested in the sport’s icon are left to pick up the pieces of their shattered lives and find a way to begin again. One of the biggest traps that victims of a betrayal fall into is believing that their healing r...

With the holidays upon us and as we are faced with a  myriad of expectations regarding familial traditions, customs, and gatherings, for many it is often a time of internal struggle and stress. Family allegiances and history pull at our heart strings while personal betrayals and private injuries beckon our need for protective distancing. Some time ago, I had the privilege of viewing a remarkable independent film entitled Shouting Secrets.  This powerful film reminded me of  a secret whispering -  a truth often neither acknowledged or acted upon - it's ok not to go home. Directed and produced by Korina Sehringer, a Swiss movie maker, Shouting Secrets opens an emotional and psychological window into the lives of a family in turmoil, especially as the loving matriarch falls ill. Although the story embraces the rich cultural heritage of a Native American family on a reservation in Arizona, the producer has gone to extraordinary lengths to avoid typic...