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How to Manage Money in Marriage Jennifer Scott  The wedding hall is cleared, the glitter dust cloud has settled, and thank-you notes are sent: You are officially past wedding mode and into married life. Newlyweds have a long and exciting time to look forward to together. However, there are also a lot of important decisions to make. One of the most vital parts of married life is effective money management. It’s important that you and your spouse are on the same page when it comes to finances. After all, financial disagreements are one of the leading causes of relationship stress, and ignoring money issues is a recipe for disaster. Instead, strengthen your relationship by tackling your finances together with these helpful tips.  Focus on Frank, Respectful Communication When it comes to money, there’s no point in beating around the bush. The more frank conversations about money you and your partner can have, the better off you’ll be. Always remember to say exactly what ...

With the holiday season upon us, it is easy to feel anxious and stressed. There is much to do and not enough time to do it in. In addition, with worries around the costs of gift-giving and travel as well as meeting family expectations, our joy begins to slip away. To add to the tension of the holidays, stores are crammed with pushy shoppers and streets are filled with impatient drivers. Gosh, no wonder with each passing day, we feel more agitated and less appreciative of the season. Let’s take a look at how we navigate a happier and healthier mindset during Holiday Turbulence. 3 Easy Practices For Staying Balanced! Breathe and Hold Suspend Beliefs Be In The Moment Let’s begin with our first practice. Breathe and Hold You’ve probably heard about the importance to taking deep breaths when dealing with stress or anxiety. However, we’re going to change it up a little.   The exercise is as follows: 1) When you feel mad, tense, anxious, irritable etc., clo...

How To Respond When Someone Is Hurting: 3 Do's and 3 Don’ts It is really difficult to know how to respond when someone is hurting.   Whether an individual has experienced a recent death or a traumatic event, or is struggling with painful relationships or serious health issues, we often find ourselves saying the wrong thing or not saying anything at all for fear of saying the wrong thing. And yet, most of us want to be a source of comfort. Let’s take a look at how to respond when someone is hurting. Although there is much to say on this topic, for our purposes let’s consider implementing “3 Do's and 3 Don’ts.” First Do: Short Statements. Be Still and Listen. Offer Yourself This First Do is so simple. Gently approach an individual and begin with two short statements. 1) Acknowledge your understanding of the situation.     Example: “I recently found out that your uncle passed away.”   2) Express your emotion. Keep it short and sincere.. ...

We are having a discussion about Healthy Families . If you are new to this series, please return to Part One: Healthy Families - Is Mine Free of Entanglements? , and then join us here. We are examining families as a “system.” In other words,   families are like complex moving machines where each individual is an integral   and interdependent part to its overall level of functioning. Today, we move to Part Two Healthy Families: Is Mine Flexible? Flexible means to be able to change or adapt with ease. Flexible families tend to move through turbulence embracing an adaptive posture and stabilizing it in the process.  Let’s explore two areas of flexibility: Elastic Energize Elastic In defining a family system, elastic means the following: One which has the ability to stretch,    bend, or flex beyond its previously defined stasis. Read again, aloud. One which has the ability to stretch,   bend, or flex beyond its previ...

Jedlie  of  We Choose Respect Podcast  &  Holli Kenley Present  ~ Another Way Wednesday ParentCast ~ An entertaining and informative series about the characters, the story-line, and the lessons in " Another Way "! Parents, Youth, and Youth Leaders! Get a copy of "Another Way" and follow along! Or, take a listen and learn! Either way... Get Ready to Get Empowered! Another Way Wednesday Series! Part II Parents and Guardians, because we respect you...please note this series is for you and your children -  ages 11 and over . We recommend you listen first, and then listen with them! If you missed Part I, take a listen. Get Ready To Get Empowered! Part I - Podcast Series! Lessons Six - Nine! Lesson Six - Finding Another Way Back When our children stumble and fall, what are they feeling and how can they begin again? How does forgiveness relate to their worth  and making healthy decision...

Note ~ There are ten personality disorders listed in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders. Their etiology is extremely complex as is management of them. The purpose of today's blog is to shed some light on  Borderline Personality Disorder.  Names have been changed for confidentiality.     First, I invite you to read - Pt. One - And Then We Were Three: A Troubled Relationship with a Borderline Sister Part Two - And Then We Were Three: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder It was towards the later part of the lengthy eighteen year span of upheaval when I entered graduate school to pursue a career as a Marriage and Family Therapist. In one of my first psychology classes, we began studying the Axis II Disorders (often referred to as personality disorders) cataloged in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM 1V).  One evening in class as the professor moved through the ‘Personality Disorders’, my attention...