Staying Mentally Well During COVID-19: Choosing What Is Healthy For You & Your Loved Ones

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Depending on the area in which you live, most of us are beginning to enter a new phase of the COVID-19 pandemic - the reopening of our cities, counties, and states/provinces, etc. As we do so, there is excitement and exuberation for some. There is still fear and frustration for others. At the very least, there is a mixture of apprehension blended with an urgency for a return to some kind of normalcy. Although all of these feelings are to be expected and many contribute to our confusion and anxiety over what to do and how to proceed, what is most important in Staying Mentally Well During COVID-19 is Choosing What Is Healthy For You and Your Loved Ones. 

Each person, couple, or family has unique beliefs and perspectives about COVID-19. Every individual, partner, and family dynamic has differing circumstances, underlying health considerations and vulnerabilities, and each is desperately trying to navigate a number of psychosocial stressors (such as bill paying, providing enough food, accessing support services, etc.). In addition, many individuals, families, businesses, and organizations are uncertain as to their futures. And thus, it is up to each person or persons to prioritize their needs and make decisions regarding their degree of re-entry based upon what is best for their physical and mental  health, safety, security, and overall wellbeing. It is important to stay grounded in your truths. It is critical that you take care of yourself. Doing so will strengthen your resolve as you continue making decisions which are in your best interest.

Sadly, when choosing our path and what we think is best for us may cause discomfort, resentment, or feelings of judgment among circles of friends or family members who are choosing differing paths. This is understandable; however, it creates stress on us and in our relationships. Therefore, it is best to explain our choices to those we care about and hope they will be respectful of our decisions.We also must  respect their choices. This may mean that we do not see one another for a period of time. It does not mean that the relationship has to end. COVID-19, with all its trappings, does not relinquish us to a permanent placement of isolation and separateness.This will pass. And when it does, if we have navigated this period of time with decency regarding our differences rather than with disdain, those gaps in our relationships are more likely fill up again with the shared joys and pleasures which once connected us.

It is important to note that during the COVID-19 pandemic, the behavior of some individuals may endanger the health of others. Although I do not condone reckless behaviors, I encourage you to reflect on this. There are so many things in life we cannot control. The more time we expend on negative thinking and emotions, the less energy we have for ourselves. And right now, we need all the positive healing inner support we can muster.

So for now remember ...

Being true to what is healthy for you and your loved ones will strengthen your mental wellbeing.
Focusing on your needs and those you love releases you from forces beyond your control.
~ Believe and Be Well ~
For more healing resources, visit Holli Kenley, MA, LMFT
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